Our day to day activities comes with their own challenges, we can either offer help or ask for help. Many a time, we feel so self-sufficient that we believe we don't need help from people around us. Though, this mindset has helped some people to become independent. However, it is not so true. No one lives independent of another, if I may say.
Why people don't ask for help? Some don't, because they were treated badly, they've gotten consistent rejections, and some believe its not a lasting solution. Nonetheless, some are scared and don't even bother asking.
Do people reject help? Some do! A person tends to reject help, as a matter of personal pride. To some, they reject help believing that on acceptance, they are inferior, insufficient and ultimately a liability.
let's dig deep!
Humans are designed to live in a space, where resources for survival tends to be limited. As a result of this, animals species rely on each other for survival, meaning directly or indirectly we live on each other for survival biologically. In no doubt, we are higher animals, who depict this character too.
Imagine life without friends, family, colleagues like a Planet for a person. Do you think there will be a word like "boredom" No! But now, planet earth is filled with people, there exist relationships that bring companionship, fun, support and care.
Then why should you withhold yourself from receiving help? It is quite obvious that the cognitive power in humans, make us reason out a matter, like why is she helping me, do I need help, does accepting help or requesting for help makes me weak or vulnerable, a question like this pounder in your heart. Questions like this can foster negative thoughts.
The right question to ask when reasoning Do I need help, In what area do I help, why? who do I meet with?
The question "who" is quite tricky. Most times, this decision depends on you. In your relationship, you would have been able to identify people who are skilled in some areas and their attitude toward helping people.
Among your peers, you will know those "who kiss and tell". Then select people based on their value system, reach out. Believe me, some are happy and ever-ready to help but you can't tell if you don't communicate(ask).
We are designed to be helped and to offer help. Help can be in diverse forms like Mentorship, Life-coach, Accountability partner, Sponsorship, Gifts, Encouragement, Parental support and many others. Understand that everyone at a stage of life has been helped in certain areas of life be it in career, relationship, finance or health.
I struggle a lot for not accepting and asking for help, as a Tech lady! this is self-sabotage, now I know better. Isaac Newton made this statement: “If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants”. This statement is now often used to symbolize scientific progress.
Accepting help is worth it, depending on your view of life. I will love you to engage in both sides of the coin.
Cheers to growth!